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Should I tell my mother that my father is cheating on her?

作者:admin 2020-05-18

Two years ago, my siblings told me they had caught my dad cheating on my mum with a younger woman he works with. I was the one who confronted him about it and he initially denied it, but after a few weeks he finally admitted it and promised he would stop. I told him we loved him and wouldn’t say anything to our mum because we didn’t want to choose sides and knew people make mistakes.

A few months later, I received an email from the other woman and my brother confirmed that they are still sneaking around. Since then, we have been asking my dad to stop but he continues to lie and has started treating my mum badly.

This is ruining the family and making it unbearable to be around my parents. Should I tell my mum – or should I get my dad to do it? I feel like I am betraying my mum and choosing my dad’s side. But I love my father and don’t want to hurt him either.

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